Doyin Okupe has spoken out about his gay son Bolu Okupe who wants homosexuality to be decriminalised in Nigeria. Seen proudly flying the rainbow LGBT flag in an Instagram post, Bolu drew criticism from many Nigerians.
Bolu who said his sexual orientation can never change, and he can’t stop being gay revealed that he discovered he was gay when he was around 10 or 11-years-old. He also said it is the same with a lot of people in the LGBTQ community stating that they all discovered their sexual orientation before puberty.
Dr. Okupe a former presidential aide said he has absolute faith that his 27-year-old son would eventually be instrumental to changing the gay community positively for God. In an interview with VanguardLiveTV’s The Controversy, he said;
“We’ve always known that Bolu was like that. He’s even much more than that. He’s incredible with what he does and capable of doing. Unfortunately for me, his mother took him abroad very early. He did major parts of his secondary school in United Kingdom. Bolu thinks this way because he lives in Europe so his mind is European. I also know that he’s easily influenced by his environment. I know that for a fact because he came home one time for holiday, and this is the person that’s been questioning the Bible but all of a sudden, he’s on fire in terms of scripture having spent some months in Nigeria. His elder brother who is a pastor now helped him spiritually during that time.”
“I made a greatest mistake to send him to France because that’s an extremely liberal society. So, the family had known that Bolu had that tendency. The day I knew [he was gay], I wept. I’ve gone past that now. We’re just praying for him but I also know that, God’s ways are not our ways, and He knows the beginning from the end. Mark my words, he (Bolu) is on a sojourn to change the gay community in order to be an instrument of God to that community eventually. That’s what going to happen by the grace of God.”
In reaction to his father’s belief that he could one day reconsider being gay, Bolu said that sexual orientation is not what one can reconsider, stating; “This is the way I am, and it is the way I have always been and will always be. I and many others in the LGBTQ (Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer) community were born the way we are, many may not understand this.”
Bolu also said he hopes one day he could have children and a beautiful family of his own saying there are ways gay men have children through IVF or adoption.